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When Values Meet Reality: What Culture Really Looks Like

Written by Shari Morin-Degel | Feb 5, 2026 5:53:29 AM

Every organization has values. But not every organization lives them.

It's one thing to say you value psychological safety, autonomy, or fun. It's another to ensure employees experience those values in their day-to-day work. The gap between what we say we value and what people actually do in the workplace often determines whether an organization thrives—or flounders.

That gap is where the difference between value norms and behavioral norms comes in.

Value Norms vs. Behavioral Norms: What’s the Difference?

Value Norms are the shared beliefs an organization promotes—often found on a company’s website, onboarding materials, or posters in the break room. They’re aspirational. They tell us what the organization wants to stand for.
Examples:

  • “We believe in psychological safety.”

  • “We support work-life balance.”

  • “We value authenticity.”

Behavioral Norms are what actually happens. They’re the spoken or unspoken rules that guide behavior. They're what people learn to do (or avoid doing) based on observation, feedback, and consequences. These determine how people interact, make decisions, and engage with one another.

You can’t train values into people—but you can design and reinforce behavioral norms that make values come to life.

Turning Values into Habits: Behavioral Norms That Reinforce Culture

The key to embedding organizational values isn't a motivational poster or a one-off team training. It's about creating habits—repeatable behaviors that become part of “how we do things around here.”

To turn values into lasting behavioral norms, three elements are essential:

1. Access

People need to have what they need—time, permission, resources, and clear expectations—to engage in the desired behavior. For example, you can't say you value flexibility and then penalize people for leaving early to care for their family. Behavioral norms must be supported by policies and structures, not just ideals.

2. Social Support

Culture is contagious. When people see respected peers and leaders modeling behaviors that reflect organizational values, they’re more likely to adopt those behaviors themselves. Reinforcement (like recognition and feedback) helps people feel psychologically safe to participate—and encourages consistency.

3. Visibility

If a behavior happens but no one notices, it doesn’t become culture. Organizations must make behavioral norms visible through storytelling, rituals, shared language, and embedded practices. The more employees see and hear these behaviors modeled and celebrated, the more those behaviors feel like the norm—not the exception.

Below are 8 organizational values commonly associated with healthy, resilient, and burnout-resistant cultures—and 3 behavioral norms for each one that help make them real, not just rhetorical.

1. Psychological Safety

Value Norm: “People can speak up and risk failing without fear.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Team leads start meetings by naming a mistake they made and what they learned.

  • Interruptions are not tolerated when someone is giving input or sharing feedback.

  • Team members are encouraged to challenge leadership decisions respectfully, and leaders respond with openness rather than defensiveness.

2. Autonomy and Flexibility

Value Norm: “Employees have control over how they do their work.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Employees can decide when and where they complete non-client-facing tasks.

  • Leaders regularly ask: “Where do you feel over-directed?” and adjust accordingly.

  • Decision-making authority is pushed as close to the work as possible.

3. Recognition

Value Norm: “Effort is noticed and appreciated.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Team meetings include a “shout-out” segment where peers recognize each other.

  • Managers ask their teams, “How do you like to be recognized?” and document the responses.

  • Recognition includes acknowledgment of emotional labor, not just technical skill.

4. Reasonably Challenging

Value Norm: “Work should stretch us, not break us.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Managers regularly ask employees: “What part of your role feels too easy? Too overwhelming?”

  • Stretch assignments come with time, tools, and coaching—not just pressure.

  • Employees are encouraged to decline tasks that exceed their bandwidth or expertise without fear of judgment.

5. Fun

Value Norm: “Work should feel energizing, collaborative, and worth celebrating.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Celebrations (small and large) are built into the schedule: birthdays, wins, inside jokes.

  • Humor and light-hearted conversation are welcome, even in leadership meetings.

  • Collaborative brainstorming is encouraged—even when ideas are messy or silly.

6. Authentic Relationships

Value Norm: “We bring our whole selves to work.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Leaders and team members share humor, reactions, or vulnerable moments without fear of judgment.

  • Team members pause to reflect before reacting—especially in moments of tension.

  • Check-ins at the start of meetings create space for real connection.

7. Support for Vicarious Trauma

Value Norm: “We care about the impact of emotionally intense work.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Staff have access to monthly reflective supervision or debrief sessions.

  • Workloads are adjusted after critical incidents or traumatic events.

  • Leaders actively monitor for signs of burnout and follow up with care and resources.

8. Meaning

Value Norm: “Our work matters.”

Behavioral Norms:

  • Stories from clients or impact data are regularly shared at all-hands meetings.

  • Employees are invited to reflect on their “why” and share how their role contributes to the mission.

  • Projects start with a clear connection to the organization’s purpose, not just deliverables.

Conclusion: Culture Is Built on Behaviors, Not Posters

Organizations that want to prevent burnout and promote fulfillment can’t stop at naming values—they must operationalize them through clear behavioral norms that are visible, repeatable, and socially reinforced.

If it’s not modeled, it’s not normal. If it’s not normal, it’s not culture.

Want to build a burnout-resistant culture? Start by asking:

  • What values do we say we hold?

  • What behaviors prove it?

Then close the gap.